My friend Hal is the kind of leader I would like to be – or
at least he has character traits that I aim to learn from. He is kind,
sensitive, funny, and makes connections with people and with leadership
principles by using magic tricks and experiential activities. We compared Myers
Briggs types, and he is the exact opposite of me – my ENTJ to his INFP, for
those who are familiar with the “types.” That’s why I asked him to team up with
me in facilitating some leadership training recently. Creativity experts talk
about the need for difference in
group members, in environments, in senses accessed, and so on, if people are to
generate creative and innovative solutions to problems. And I knew that those I
was training would benefit from our differences.
And yet, there are many things that join us together,
regardless of our differences and the benefits of “gifts differing.” And when
Hal was recently felled by a major health tragedy, it was hard not to feel his
and his family’s pain deep in the center of who I am. After all, we are both in
business for ourselves. We are both trainers. We are both about the same age.
We are both vulnerable to the vagaries of health, the economic climate, and
many other things beyond our control. We are both humans who inhabit the same
community. It escapes me how people can find their way out of such holes of
vulnerability without appealing to something higher than themselves, however
they define it. I certainly have, this week, called out for that Higher Power.
Called out for a strength greater than my own.
And I know that the families of those shot in Aurora and
Wisconsin are doing the same at this moment. As are Hal and his family. In
fact, the maxim “Behind every good man is a good woman” comes to mind as I
consider Hal and his wife’s current journey. The notion that “no one is an
island” and that we all need one another takes central stage as I consider the
shootings. And it brings me to the thought that we all need to be focused on
what is really important in life, reaching for the best of what we have to
offer, because we never know when our greatest strength or kindness will be
needed. In fact, one wonders if there is ever a time that it is not needed. If
we are not noticing the need, perhaps we are not opening our eyes!
And yesterday, I watched great strength and kindness in
Hal’s wife. A gentle, tender, wise, hopeful woman whom most of us could do well
to emulate. A woman tuned in to her husband’s needs of the moment. A woman
reaching out to her husband’s community to inform them, trusting them to care
and to do the right thing. A woman ready to do whatever is necessary. A woman
who has created a loving family that is also gathering around Hal. A woman of
faith – who will need great support in this time of tremendous challenge.
And I think, “Can any of us really afford not
to aim toward being like this woman?” If we look around at our world, can we
really accept that love and hope and encouragement and other character traits
are not essential and needed in every moment of every day? Shouldn’t we take a
little time each day to figure out how we can aspire to the higher? To our
better selves? To what’s optimal – instead of the minimum necessary? I know
that tragedies make me rethink these
things. What about you? What will you do with the pain and tragedy around you? Will
you join me in investing energy in love and joy and faith and kindness and . .
. . ? Well, you get my point!
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